Fitting-In Is Too Much Work




I have been listening and watching the story of Grease, the Musical, because I am acting in the show this summer.    I’ve been doing much thinking about the story in this very lively song and dance show.   The basic storyline is all about, Sandra Dee, the girl who doesn’t really fit-in with the popular crowd.   She tries to just be herself, but in the end she realizes that she won’t be accepted by the popular crowd, nor by the guy she feels she really likes, unless she changes herself to be like them.   Sandy decides that she has to dress provocatively, smoke cigarettes, and be willing to “go all the way”  in order to get what she wants – the cute popular guy, and secondly – popularity with a capital P!

I feel great sadness for every person who has stooped to the level of becoming what they ARE NOT to attract the attention of people that they really never wanted to be like in the first place.   Why did Sandy originally not want to fit in with the popular girls and guys?  The popular girls and guys had completely opposite morals from her.   Not only did they drink, smoke, use foul language, and sleep around, they were insecure, insensitive, highly vain, and competitive with each other in really bad way.  (Cast members, please if you are reading this, don’t take offense to my character analysis.)

Somewhere in all of this, Sandy believed the lie that her value was in how accepted she was by the popular crowd.   At one point in my life, I felt a lot like Sandra Dee.  I’ve felt like, “It would sure be nice to completely fit-in, and not always stick out like a sore thumb because I am so different.  It would be nice to actually get the popular, stud-muffin boyfriend, and tons of attention by everyone by the way I dress.”  Seriously, just being honest.

For so long, it seemed like I had to really try hard not to do “this” and not do “that” as a Christian, in order to stand-out.  Sometimes I wasn’t even so sure if I was doing the right things for the right reasons.  I was just kind of following The Book, the best I could.  I was just trying my hardest to follow what I had been taught.   It was hard for awhile, then it just got easier.

Why and how did it get easier for me to stand-out from the popular crowd?  I made the choice to spend my time with the unpopular crowd, the crowd of people who were like me, who wanted to glorify God with their lifestyle and behavior choices.   I made the choice to sit and spend extra time with God and study his amazing Book of Life when others were just “hanging-out”. I believed that the price that I would have to pay to fit-in with the popular crowd was not worth losing my intimacy with God.

Over the years the intimacy that I have built with my Heavenly Father and Lover of My Soul is far better than getting all the attention from popular people.  Words can not describe how much better it really is to know you who you are and Whose you are.

Being rejected by certain people is not really a big deal when your identity has been fully developed through a relationship with God and His Word.  My own personal belief system of right and wrong comes from the Word of God, and it has become embedded in my soul.  My lifestyle and attitude has been shaped by what I have listened to and read the most.

When presented with many of the same worldly temptations on a day-to-day and weekend-to-weekend basis, it’s not really so hard to say no.  There are certain things I just don’t do.  There are certain places, I just don’t go.  I know I am the daughter of The King of Kings, and there are certain things that His kids just don’t do!   No questions asked.   (Sometime soon, I will share some of those things that sons and daughters of the King just should not be doing.)

At this time in your life, whether old or young, you may still find that it is work to stand-out, but my encouragement to you is – it will get easier the more you behold your Heavenly Father and His Word, and put yourself in right relationships with quality people who want the same thing.   We become more like the one whom we behold.

 9But you are A CHOSEN RACEA royal PRIESTHOODA HOLY NATIONA PEOPLE FOR God’s OWN POSSESSION, so that you may proclaim the excellencies of Him who has called you out of darkness into His marvelous light; 10for you once were NOT A PEOPLE, but now you are THE PEOPLE OF GOD; you had NOT RECEIVED MERCY, but now you have RECEIVED MERCY.     11Beloved, I urge you as aliens and strangers to abstain from fleshly lusts which wage war against the soul. 12Keep your behavior excellent among the Gentiles, so that in the thing in which they slander you as evildoers, they may because of your good deeds, as they observe them, glorify God in the day of visitation.   (1 Peter 2:9-12 NASB)